21. Apr, 2017

Should sabbaticals be mandatory? Or are you scared of sitting quietly with yourself?

There’s a common myth I think we all fall prey to: If something is important, it has to be complicated.

Surely, if what we want is easy—be it a business venture or a happier life—then everyone would be going for it, wouldn’t they?

Well, yes, in a way. But I’ve found that while the road to success and happiness isn’t always smooth sailing, it’s usually us who overcomplicate matters.

When we learn to get out of our own way, we might actually get the results we want a whole lot faster.

Slow down to speed up and reconnect with yourself.

We all need to create space, to slown down as a way to simplify and have a clear path, clear headspace.It is the silence, the space,  the focus that make our life special.

It is like the notes played in a symphony. Is it not the notes that make the music special, it is the space between the notes. Very clear in Beethoven’s 5th symphony .https://youtu.be/fOk8Tm815lE

We overcomplicate things because doing so takes the attention away from the root of who we are.

We’re scared of sitting quietly with ourselves, so we do everything we can to keep the lights on and the dance floor full.

We worry that if we let go of our habitual, insecure thinking, we might not like what we find in those quiet moments.

Yet these quiet moments are actually the times when we can allow real progress to be made.

When our minds are clear and we’re connected with who we are—before all the thinking and stories and beliefs we’ve piled on top of ourselves since birth—we are more resourceful and resilient than we might ever give ourselves credit for.

We don’t ever need to think ourselves into getting better results; we just need to trust that our innate wisdom is always there if we slow down and connect with it.

As Lao Tzu wrote: We turn clay to make a vessel; but it is in the space where there is nothing that the usefulness of the vessel depends.

I think this is apparent more and more in this modern world, where we all willingly plug ourselves into the matrix.

If we never slow down and get off the hamster wheel, we can avoid the emptiness we expect is waiting for us.

In allowing ourselves this space, we access infinitely better results than if we stayed stuck in our heads, overcomplicating our lives with stressful thinking.

When we drop out of our thinking and connect to ourselves and the present moment, the answer often shows itself to us. Why? Because we’ve given it the space to appear.

Without that space, all we have is the same old thoughts and ideas cluttering up our heads.

These ideas haven’t served us well in the past, so why do we think we’ll find the answers there now?

As Einstein wrote, the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.

Whether we’re stressed, anxious, or trying to work out how best to achieve what we want, the less we have on our mind, the better life gets.

So if we are learning to move away from thinking our way to solutions, what do we do instead?

We slow down. We take away.We take a break.We take a sabbatical.

To better help with this understanding and create a space for insight to happen, I find it helps to get away from distractions strategically throughout the day. Go for a walk in nature; book some quiet time with yourself for reflection; and actively disconnect from your emails and phone for an hour or so.

Little acts like this create exponential results when you allow yourself the space and clarity to fully connect with yourself and the world.

When we’re calmer and more relaxed, everything comes a lot more easily. By creating a peaceful, quiet space around us, we allow our innate wisdom and well-being to come to the surface.

This is who you are before the world put all the thoughts and worries and stories on you.

This is you, uncomplicated,pure, elegant, resourceful.

Think about it; did you ever really get any great ideas or solve any major problems when you were stressed, stuck in your head, and anxious? Don’t you usually get your best ideas when you’re calm, clear-headed, and relaxed? Perhaps in the shower or when out walking?

Life was never meant to be a struggle.

The bottom line is simple: learn to trust that when your head is clear of thoughts this isn’t you not trying; this is exactly the right condition to allow new insights and ideas to appear.

With this new understanding, you free yourself up to fully connect with who you really are and at that point in time is when you feel the flow, the freedom, the creativity within you.

And companies, the ones that really care about you as a person, not as an employee only, know how important this is. https://youtu.be/JgOjVrKn9qU

Today, take a break, slow down, go for a walk and reconnect with yourself .Enjoy!