11. Feb, 2018

You are a combination of the 5 people you spend most time with

Great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.” Eleanor Roosevelt

Surround yourself with people who are positive and working towards their dreams, not the Negative Nellies who suck the life out of the day.  

It’s been said you are a combination of the 5 people you spend most time with.

Look at the people who you hang out with all of the time - your eating habits, overall health, wealth, and levels of success are all likely to be similar. What does this mean for you? It means you are who you hang out with. This means that if you want to change, you probably need to associate with different people.

There are five crucial people that you need to have on your team in order to make the changes you’ve identified:

Mentor – This is someone you know who has had success in the areas in which you want to be successful. If you’re unfit and want to be healthy and strong, find somebody who used to be unfit and is now healthy and strong and find out how they did it. (Remember you have to like the process or it won’t work for you). If you want to earn more, learn to sing, open shop, win a medal, find somebody who has had that experience and learn EVERYTHING you can about how they did it.

Buddy – This is someone who is struggling with the same things, working on the same stuff as you. When you have a bad day, this person knows exactly how you feel. Because you’re both striving for the same goals, you have somebody to bounce ideas around with, share triumphs and struggles with. Caution don’t take the buddy support as far as going down the plughole together. Understanding its hard doesn’t mean you support each other in giving up.

Student – The BEST way to get better at something is to teach it to somebody else. If you think you need to be an expert in order to teach, think of expertise on a scale of 1- 100. If you’re a 5 you can help out the 1-4′s. Find somebody that needs help, maybe a co-worker or friend who wants to do what you’re doing and teach them how to get started. As you get better and learn from your mentor, you can then compare are share this with your buddy and then help teach it to your student.

Cheerleader – This is the person who will always be in your corner, cheering you on. They’ll believe in you more than you believe in yourself, have high expectations, keep you on your toes, push you outside of your comfort zone, make you try new things, not let you settle for less, dust you off when you fall and push you back out there.

Model - Find someone that also had success in the areas in which you want to be successful but in this case you will follow , copy and adapt the things that are working for them and you will behave as if you already are successful: write, read , do the same stuff , adapting it to your style so you feel how it is to be successful in that specific are you wat to improve. Do not reinvent the wheel. Modelling people is to find out the specific beliefs that cause them to represent the world in a way that allows them to take effective action.

The best year of your life is within reach if you focus on creating new habits and find these 5 people.

These are 2 simple steps to begin introducing changes in your life.

Make it simple and get the Fastrack to Refocus your life.

All the best

Nieves

@fastracktorefocus Coaching